For the past two months I’ve been extremely busy. My life has changed substantially, and as a result I haven’t found much time to blog. I apologize to all of my dedicated readers for not being able to consistently post blogs every Monday. Being the perfectionist that I am, it’s been heavy on my heart. But on the bright side, it has been a great learning experience… Something I can now share with you.
Learning to accept our current position in life is one of the biggest challenges for most of us. Life moves fast. If we don’t immediately get a great job out of university, for some reason we beat ourselves up and feel like failures. Why is that?
Our parents, of course! They were molded by a different time, when finding a job in your chosen field was easier than it is today. A lot of things were easier back then. With fewer distractions, they were able to forge their path much sooner and with relatively less resistance – and maybe their tolerance for pain and failure is much higher than ours.
With the pressure from our parents, who don’t understand how different our experience is, it becomes near impossible for us to accept where we are. Our parents taught us: Get an education = get a good job = buy a house. But we live in a different reality. Anxiety and Depression are at an all-time high among the Y and Z generations. The cause seems to be that the old ways of thinking aren’t viable for us anymore. Our generation simply does not want to settle like our parents. We all want the jobs of our dreams; only, we think we can get it. This is the root of our disconnect.
We must unlearn these patterns from our parents. It’s not healthy to believe you can simply go to school, and then get a great job afterwards. That day and age is gone. If we chase a career we’re crazy about, we must accept that we won’t find success as fast as our parents did because we, as a generation, are driven by love. We need to pursue jobs that we’re obsessed with. We need careers that fill our souls, not just our bank accounts.
For those of you like me who find you are slowly but surely moving forward, it’s important to come to terms with, and learn to love, our present situation. It may not be much, but it is your world, your forge, and your stepping-stone to your dreams. Find the light in your dark room, because we can only work with what we already have, and everyone has enough to work with. Remember that great things were accomplished by people worse off than you, and they did it because they accepted the nourishment of their roots. Find the nourishment where you are; believe me, it’s there. It’s the only way to get where you’re going.
We can’t change the present. All we can do is breathe through the fears, and let go of the anxiety that is only there because of stagnant beliefs. We must choose to “Love and accept ourselves as we are right now.” < My favourite mantra. If we embrace a new world, we must embrace a new way of doing things. I recommend everyone try meditation. It is a powerful tool that truly gives perspective on how little we have to fear if we follow our instincts and listen to our hearts.
So today, I accept that I am not where I was told I’d be by now. But that’s ok because where I am is where I was always meant to be. I am not alone… I am apart of new generation and a new way of life. I am different and I am great, and I choose to focus on what brings me happiness. I choose to not worry if I can’t be the perfect human that I was taught to be. So I missed a few blogs, I ain’t gonna die! haha