Taking care of myself – My Journey

Oh hey my loves!

From time to time I have come on here and shared bits and pieces of my story and I’ve decided that today would be another one of those days.

This year has been a bloody whirlwind for me so far. So many high high and so many low lows. I’ve begun many new journeys and ended some. I’ve felt extremely on track towards my goals and then completely off track. I have had moments of pure bliss and moments of absolute torture.

On my most recent podcast I talked about the idea of how struggling in life can lead to a happier life (Click here to listen). I’ve watched a lot of youtube videos recently on rewiring our brains to view struggling as a good thing and as much as I totally agree, I, more than ever, understand why selling a life without worries is a billion dollar industry. I think it’s even the reason the self-help industry does so well…because people will do anything to be happier…to find a way to achieve that blissful life that is marketed to us.

In the last few years, self-help has been more popular than ever and I think it’s for many reasons including the fact that we don’t socialize in a fulfilling way anymore (via social media and cell phone use) —causing major anxiety and depression. Movies more than ever project unrealistic lives that people are hoping to take on as their own. We live in a world of projected “Instant fame”… projected “Instant gratification” and yet, the world isn’t that way. I think people begin to realize that and then the depression begins. Then the thoughts of unworthiness begins and they feel as if they aren’t as good as everyone else. That’s when they turn to Self-Help. That’s when they turn to a plethora of books, motivational speakers, conferences, you name it, that will guide them along the journey back to actual reality.

So I have been struggling recently…but I’ve been trying to find a way to be ok with it. For it’s my disney princess belief system that actually makes me resist the struggle and tries to convince me that I’m doing something wrong because I’m struggling. But no…to struggle is apart of life. I use to believe that there must be a solution to why I feel a certain way or if I wasn’t perfect at something, then I had to think it through until I came up with a solution to be better. But now I know that no matter how many small problems I solve, there will always be the yin and yang. There will always be struggle. It just doesn’t go away. You cant out-think everything. Perhaps maybe robots will, but humans…we have yin and yang always. Souls have yin and yang always.

Knowing that no matter how many self help books you read…you will never be happy always. That is just life. You will always have struggle sometimes.

Perhaps giving into the struggle might inevitably give you more joy and peace. Perhaps acceptance is the key.

You know what though…we all know this. Everything in the self-help world is knowledge we all know deep down but we’ve forgotten…that’s why it resonates so well. Everyone knows that taking a breath when we struggle will help it be easier…but for some reason we all forget.

Anyways I can rant about this forever haha but I just wanted to get real for a few seconds and get this off my chest and to declare that I’m freakin struggling haha. It’s hard waking up in the mornings some days…but usually pushing myself through those days…leads to better days and nights where all is calm.

Anyways, if you’re someone struggling right now, I’m here with ya.

Sending ya’ll so much love and light!

xox Melissa

 

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Learning to Love the Skin I’m In ♡

 

♡ For as long as I can remember, I have been on a journey to love the skin I’m in. I have always struggled with acne. Being an actress, my agents would constantly tell me that I had to have flawless skin in order to compete with the other talent. So because of that belief, I would become extremely down on myself when I couldn’t be rid of it. On days where my skin was really bad, I wouldn’t leave the house. That’s really sad now that I’m reflecting on it.

Last year was a bad year for my skin. I had made the decision to stop taking birth control and my skin didn’t like that very much. I had really horrific acne and it was kind of what inspired me to create Just Love. I was so down and I really needed to practice self-love. I needed to be a role-model for myself and so writing about self-love, essentially motivated me to always be in a mindset where I’m working on loving myself.

Currently, after a lot of trial and error in terms of experimenting with products and food, I have now found a routine that has brought me healthy skin. I have been practicing the vegan lifestyle for 9 months and the difference in my skin is incomparable. Not only that, but my mood swings have disappeared and I honestly wake up in a good mood almost every day. I truly believe that is all due to the food that I eat now.

I developed a few battle wounds (acne scars haha) from last year and I definitely still have weak moments of needing to accept and love them. Whenever I’m feeling a little self conscious I try to look myself in the mirror and say, “I love and accept myself where I am right now”.  Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but I feel that so far it has been really helpful for me.

Aiming to love and accept our current states, I feel, should be a goal for all of us.

On that note, I want to jump into the point of this blog. This week I came across an article about Kendal Jenner and how the media and a ton of internet trolls were speaking horribly about her acne. A photographer caught a picture of her barefaced and unfortunately felt the need to not only share it with the world but to also scrutinize her for it. Hearing this of course broke my heart a little, as I too have felt anxious about the public seeing me bare-faced before.

But what came after this article has been simply fascinating. A bunch of celebrities have been sticking up for Kendal and revealing their imperfect skin. Seeing this happen has truly moved me. For so long celebrities have represented this perfect ideal image that just doesn’t exist…even among celebrities. So its wonderful to see other celebs embracing the skin that they’re in. Bella Thorne is among the bunch that has been quite vocal about it; uploading tons of acne shots and telling stories about how her sister and her say affirmations around loving their acne.

Its very heartwarming seeing celebrities embracing their imperfections and showing that they’re not perfect too. It’s crazy how the media makes us feel as if we should be aiming to become this perfect individual…that just doesn’t exist. Everyone has their scars in one way shape or form.

So, I just wanted to share that with you guys. I know what it’s like to be extremely down on yourself because of the way that you look. I felt a lot of comfort hearing about Bella Thorne and the other celebrities embracing their beauty and I thought it was a good reminder for me and all of us to keep focusing on falling in love with ourselves. We’re all beautiful.♡ 

Love you all so much!

Melissa ♡ 

Ps. Below are a few pictures of AWESOME celebs that have embraced their skin, as well as a progression of photos from my acne journey. xoxo

 

 

 

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Healthy comes in many different Shapes and Sizes.

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I have always been a skinny gal. My father is very tall and skinny and I of course have the same bone structure as him. I also danced for more then half of my life and since dance, I have continued to be active by going to the gym and running a lot. But besides that, you may be surprised that I was never very healthy.

All of my life people would look at me and say, “Eat a hamburger your too skinny!” or “Oh my gosh, have you lost weight again?“. The truth is, I probably was loosing weight, but its because I was lacking nutrition from all the junk food I would consume.

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