“If you love somebody, set them free.” How often have you heard that phrase throughout your life? How often have you actually listened and done just that?
Until recently this phrase made no impact on my brain. When we give someone the freedom to be who they are, to make choices without judgement, to come and go as they please…THAT is love. That is respect. We all have our own life path and our own goals, and not every relationship is meant to last forever. People are placed in our lives for a reason and sometimes that reason simply expires. Sometimes a lesson has been learnt and the time comes that you’re meant to part ways. If we can become aware of that and be open to whatever may happen and trust the flow of life we will find it easier to give people the freedom to be who they are. We will then know that no matter what happens, no matter what people do, this was just a part of our life paths.
If you’re thinking that setting them free means letting them go, you have missed the point. Setting them free means giving them the space to be as they are; to be their whole and complete self. It means showing them compassion for their faults and accepting them as they are. That is pure love.
There is no guidebook on how to live life and therefore no right or wrong decisions to be made. If we can come to terms with that, then we can understand everyone is trying their best. If we can acknowledge that, then it could be easier for us to give people the freedom they deserve.
So here is what our goal should be: aim to allow everyone to be as they are. Aim to accept everyone’s flaws. Aim to show compassion always. Aim to give everyone love…by setting them free.