Learning to Love the Skin I’m In ♡

 

♡ For as long as I can remember, I have been on a journey to love the skin I’m in. I have always struggled with acne. Being an actress, my agents would constantly tell me that I had to have flawless skin in order to compete with the other talent. So because of that belief, I would become extremely down on myself when I couldn’t be rid of it. On days where my skin was really bad, I wouldn’t leave the house. That’s really sad now that I’m reflecting on it.

Last year was a bad year for my skin. I had made the decision to stop taking birth control and my skin didn’t like that very much. I had really horrific acne and it was kind of what inspired me to create Just Love. I was so down and I really needed to practice self-love. I needed to be a role-model for myself and so writing about self-love, essentially motivated me to always be in a mindset where I’m working on loving myself.

Currently, after a lot of trial and error in terms of experimenting with products and food, I have now found a routine that has brought me healthy skin. I have been practicing the vegan lifestyle for 9 months and the difference in my skin is incomparable. Not only that, but my mood swings have disappeared and I honestly wake up in a good mood almost every day. I truly believe that is all due to the food that I eat now.

I developed a few battle wounds (acne scars haha) from last year and I definitely still have weak moments of needing to accept and love them. Whenever I’m feeling a little self conscious I try to look myself in the mirror and say, “I love and accept myself where I am right now”.  Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t, but I feel that so far it has been really helpful for me.

Aiming to love and accept our current states, I feel, should be a goal for all of us.

On that note, I want to jump into the point of this blog. This week I came across an article about Kendal Jenner and how the media and a ton of internet trolls were speaking horribly about her acne. A photographer caught a picture of her barefaced and unfortunately felt the need to not only share it with the world but to also scrutinize her for it. Hearing this of course broke my heart a little, as I too have felt anxious about the public seeing me bare-faced before.

But what came after this article has been simply fascinating. A bunch of celebrities have been sticking up for Kendal and revealing their imperfect skin. Seeing this happen has truly moved me. For so long celebrities have represented this perfect ideal image that just doesn’t exist…even among celebrities. So its wonderful to see other celebs embracing the skin that they’re in. Bella Thorne is among the bunch that has been quite vocal about it; uploading tons of acne shots and telling stories about how her sister and her say affirmations around loving their acne.

Its very heartwarming seeing celebrities embracing their imperfections and showing that they’re not perfect too. It’s crazy how the media makes us feel as if we should be aiming to become this perfect individual…that just doesn’t exist. Everyone has their scars in one way shape or form.

So, I just wanted to share that with you guys. I know what it’s like to be extremely down on yourself because of the way that you look. I felt a lot of comfort hearing about Bella Thorne and the other celebrities embracing their beauty and I thought it was a good reminder for me and all of us to keep focusing on falling in love with ourselves. We’re all beautiful.♡ 

Love you all so much!

Melissa ♡ 

Ps. Below are a few pictures of AWESOME celebs that have embraced their skin, as well as a progression of photos from my acne journey. xoxo

 

 

 

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Coping Strategies for Social Anxiety

It’s no secret that I struggle with social anxiety. I have been quite vocal about it over the last few years. Even though I don’t experience it as harshly as I once did, it never seems to go away completely. There are days and sometimes weeks where I find myself feeling that old ‘suffocating’ feeling; and it’s very hard to function and focus when I’m feeling that way.

People overwhelm me sometimes. Some people’s energies are strong, and sometimes if we share a connection, my anxiety and ‘need to please’ can overwhelm me. This is something that I think I will always be working through.

Although I cannot say that I know the exact cure, I can say that when I’m stuck in a rut and feel anxious, applying these ideas can really help. Sometimes it makes the feeling disappear completely and sometimes it helps just for a little while.

On that note, here’s my disclosure. Nothing I am about to tell you works 100 percent of the time and just because something works for me, it doesn’t mean it will work for you. So listen to what your body needs; experiment and see what you can come up with.

Strategies/Techniques that help me when I’m feeling anxious:

  1. Do something meditative – Fresh air always seems to help clear my mind and calm down my nerves; so going for a walk can be very therapeutic. Sitting still, clearing my mind and practicing the most common form of meditation is also very effective sometimes. I like to do this for 10-15 mins.
  2. Send intentional love – This is something I learned from a very wise friend. As I said earlier, I often feel the need to help/please people. But sometimes I don’t have the energy, due to feeling overwhelmed. On the days that I feel that way, I send everyone intentional love and fulfillment. This way, I feel I can mentally relax a little and I don’t feel as guilty for not being able to help. It helps me stay in a positive mindset and helps me recover much faster.
  3. Do something active. Whether its going to the gym, dancing, or playing a sport, sometimes sweating it out, can be very effective. Feeling overwhelmed is just a feeling like every other emotion we feel, and sometimes feelings need to be felt and released. Finding a good outlet, such as doing something active, is a great way to release any strong feelings.
  4. Quiet time. – Take a night to yourself and DO WHAT YOU LOVE. Write out some new goals to focus on. Do some crafts. Explore. Watch Netflix. Enjoy life.
  5. Try writing out your thoughts – Sometimes seeing your thoughts on paper can give you perspective on the situation. 90% of the time it helps me see how foggy my mind really is when I’m feeling anxious. When I was feeling down many moons ago, I started a blog where I poured out my heart to the world. It was such a great outlet for me and truly helped me deal with a lot of my social anxiety.

As I said earlier though, listen to your own intuition. Try new things and perhaps you will find something that resonates with you. I hope one of these ideas helps!

Sending you all lots of love,

Melissa ♡ 

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Peeks Streaming schedule for the week!

Monday: 1:30 pm  & 10:30pm– Coffee Chats & Meditation Mondays

Tuesday: 10 or 11 am – We’re discussing healthy relationships.

Wednesday: 11am & 11pm – Goal writing& late night chats

Thursday: 10 pm – Angel readings

Friday: 10am – Workout.

Saurday: 10pm – Get ready with me – In Niagara! 

Sunday: 10 pm – Week update + Possibly a morning coffee chat – Stay tuned

I hope to see you guys there!!!

Melissa ♡ 

 

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